There are huge discussions about the subject of self-love these days and so many voices encourage this kind of powerful act of self-empowerment.
Even the media have realized that being different and an individual is something that sales in our new modern approaching times. Be who you are and be proud of that.
This new shift of energies towards self-acceptance and empowerment is to see and there is so much more to come. We are invited to be truly ourselves and show it to the world, no matter what. But how many of us do really know who they are?
Self-love isn’t about being overweight and trying not caring what other people think. Real Self-love is truly accepting yourself without the opinion of others.
Self-love is not suffering from mental health issues and telling people openly about it because its now widely accepted in society. Real Self-love is about asking for help if you suffer and loving yourself for your vulnerability. Knowing that every person on this planet goes through this, its a part of being human.
Self-love is not only to appreciating our flaws and a random act of kindness towards ourselves. Self-love is 24/7 available, it is something that we can give to ourselves, every moment and minute of time.
Self-love is a real superpower that will change your life forever.
Many people think that self-love starts in the moment when you actually give a shit about what other people think of you. Some people think only if they start caring less, than self-love would take place within their lives.
Self-love is, caring more – not about what others may think – but what you actually thinking about yourself.
I would like to say that self-love starts with the moment you decide to take care of yourself. Taking care of yourself for me does include the full spectrum of physical, emotional, mental and spiritual well-being. Every part is interconnected with another part within ourselves and therefore can positively influence each other. So if we start treating one part with love and kindness, the rest will follow and benefit from it.
The moment in which you make a commitment to yourself that from today on you will be looking after yourself, no matter what, the transformation will begin.
You will start to accept your limitations and will not give more than you have resources available. You will start to honour your body and its needs. You will give yourself a mental break if you need to, you will learn to be patient and gentle with yourself and furthermore you find ways to enjoy life, no matter what.
To make it easier for you, I created these guidelines or principles that will help you to stay focused and true to your mission of self-love.
1. Love yourself first
Loving yourself first is a very tricky thing and many of us do really struggle to do that. We easily give our unconditional support and love to family and friends but very rarely to ourselves. Thinking if we would say no, we would be self-fish or a bad person. Deep within we might suffer from the thought that we find our worth in sacrificing ourselves for others. Only when we are needed – we are worthy.
Especially women struggle to set healthy boundaries and get some real me time! But as the Buddhists say: “You can’t pour from an empty cup.” Which means, that how can we give truly love to others if we don’t love ourselves first? And by saying that I don’t mean accepting yourself for who you are, or the way you look, but to give yourself first what you really need. Time out, holiday, good food, exercise, fun and days out, rest or sleep, but furthermore start actively asking yourself, what is it what I do need now? Act accordingly.
2. Learn to say NO – if you want to
How many of us do suffer from the fear of rejection and its consequences? The weird look of others, the withdrawing of love and affection or even the argument that follows once we decided to set boundaries for our own good. If you truly want to start loving yourself you will need to stop thinking it is possible to please everybody. You will need to learn to say NO and be okay with its consequences. You can do that! If you fail to set healthy boundaries with others, you will suffer for sure. You will exhaust yourself, get frustrated and allow others to take away your power. You are in control. Make use of it. Setting boundaries is a very important step towards self-love and very empowering. Let go of the illusion that everybody needs to clap when you start saying No, they will not. But your inner self will clap for you endlessly and reward you with a lot more to come.
3. Start Respecting yourself – and others will respect you too
This is a very common problem and I come across it many times within my work as healer and medium. Many people complain about that they are not being respected at work, in a relationship, or in their family. These people don’t realize that others won’t pay respect, if we don’t start showing respect towards ourselves first. Respecting yourself is a massive step towards self-love and has many aspects. Such as resting when you want to, leave when you feel uncomfortable, tell people not to speak in a certain way with you and not allow anybody to take away your peace of mind. Ask yourself honestly, how shall others respect you if you don’t respect yourself in the first place?
This means to be aware of how you talk to yourself, how often you do respect your own limitations or respect yourself just for the way you are?
Once you set these rules in motion you will see how others automatically will come and respect you. The energy within you will be expressed on the outside world. This is how the magic works!
4. Be Honest with yourself
This is so important and I just can’t highlight it enough. Be honest, no matter what!!! Being honest with yourself is a really huge step towards your self-love because it means that you are going to be clear with yourself and others. No more delusional denial, no more blindly following what’s been said if it doesn’t feel right for you. No more trying to make things work if they just not worth the try.
At the beginning that can bring you into a bit of a mess or chaos in your life, but if you truly want to commit to self-love and improve your life you will need to go through this stage. It will help you to sort out your relations in your private and working life. It will help you to gain a deeper connection and understanding of the true, the whole you! Dare to be honest and start with yourself. The gains will be massively rewarding. Being honest and clear takes courage. It will help you to stand your ground and stand up for what you believe in. It will add clarity into your life and help you to come straight to the point. It saves you a lot of energy and time and also you can finally stop over thinking stuff!!!
5. Treat yourself – not only once in a while
How often have we heard of others, ohhh you should treat yourself to this or that? And at the end we backed out thinking, aww I will do it tomorrow or next time when we got more money or whatsoever. The time is always now and that counts for self-love too. There is always an opportunity to treat yourself for a nice walk, a good book, some time away, a piece of chocolate cake, a nice new piece of clothes, a concert or movie, a nice meal or yoga class.
Treating yourself has many aspects and should include the whole spectrum of body, mind and spirit. Sometimes we should get treated by others, like receiving a gift or an invitation, getting a massage or else. And often enough it is time to ask ourselves how can we treat ourselves? What can we do to show gratitude towards our physical, mental, emotional or spiritual self? What is it that we do need right now?
6. Commit to truly being yourself
This is probably the most drastic step you can take towards self-love, to commit to truly being yourself. Once you step into this powerful commitment you will see how the world will change within and around you. There is no need to say, no matter what others people think because you want to focus on yourself not on others. It’s not about not caring what others think, but its about caring more what you actually think about yourself.
You came into this life to truly be yourself, to find yourself and to express yourself fully. This is your birthright and everybody’s birthright. There is no need to fear what others think or act aggressively or upset if they don’t agree with you. Stay focused on your path, on your commitment to self-love.
Commit to truly be yourself and love yourself for that. Others don’t need to like it, but trust me they will! Commit to finding yourself and cultivating this qualities within you that bring more joy, more love and more happiness in your life and into the life of others.
Self-love is a process and includes many steps. If we take one step at a time we are already on the way and ahead of many others.
If you want to start radical changes, well please go ahead and do so. You might find these guiding principles helpful and help you along the way to strengthen and develope your new superpower.
If you would like a bit of further help or introduction to this subject, why not join us for a Healing Meditation on 16th of April?
Healing Meditation for Self-Love
I am holding a guided Healing Meditation on the 16th of April at the Yoga, Meditation and Therapy Space in Saltburn by the sea. (Earthbeat Centre, Marske Road)
In this meditation session I will assist you to start loving yourself. This is an empowering session and will activate your self-loving abilities and increase your intuition.
I will create a safe and welcoming space in which you can allow yourself to relax and wind down while the healing energy enters your body, mind and spirit.
Spaces are limited to 8 people and pre-booking is essential.
Come in comfy clothes. The session is from 7pm – 8pm.
If you would like to come and join us for this meditation session, please contact me on: firstname.lastname@example.org
You can also have a look at our FB Event here…
Let this become your guiding light:
“As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know, this is “AUTHENTICITY”.
As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody if I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me. Today I call it “RESPECT”.
As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow. Today I call it “MATURITY”.
As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment. So I could be calm. Today I call it “SELF-CONFIDENCE”.
As I began to love myself I quit stealing my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future. Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm. Today I call it “SIMPLICITY”.
As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism. Today I know it is “LOVE OF ONESELF”.
As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since I was wrong less of the time. Today I discovered that is “MODESTY”.
As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worrying about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where everything is happening. Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it “FULFILLMENT”.
As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick. But as I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally. Today I call this connection “WISDOM OF THE HEART”.
We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born. Today I know “THAT IS LIFE”!”
– Charlie Chaplin
Medium – Healer – Soulactivist
Julie Jurgan is a medium, healer and Soulactivist. She offers One-to-One Sessions ( Readings & Meditations) via Skype and in person. Her healing sessions are available in person as well as via distance. Her healing sessions are powerful and transforming. If you want to know what sessions Julie offers please have a look here…
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