Did you know that over 61 million Antidepressants outside of hospitals have been described alone in the UK in 2015?
(The Guardian July 2016)
More and more people seem to follow the mainstream opinion of taking chemical drugs to deal with depressions, anxiety and panic attacks. Without knowing what they really do to themselves and their soul. People need and want a quick solution for their discomfort and even doctors are not really helpful in pointing out the source of depressions to their patients. I truly believe if we come to understand what kind of depression we are suffering from and take a realistic view on what is wrong with the world, we will come to understand that depressions are mostly not-self made. Furthermore the most of diagnosed depressions do occur as a result of an outside influence we suffer from and feel we have no control of or a lack of power to change it.
Knowing the reason, its source we may come into a better understanding of ourselves and what it means to be depressive. But even most important we will understand that depression is not a condition that we need to live with as we can make certain steps towards its release. We also need to come to see that taking anti-depressant doesn’t solve the problem it only helps in coping.
The question now is, do we want to cope with life or do we want to live it? How much of our control do we want to hand out to others and where can we take our own responsibility? Antidepressant have major side-effects and apart from that they turn you into an emotional disconnected being. If we really want to work with depression we need to dive deep into the ocean of understanding of the self and make necessary adjustments. Honesty and authenticity are the key elements to find the source of depression and suffering.
Most important is that we do understand that our soul is the most trustworthy guide in our lives, telling us when something is right or wrong. Taking anti-depressant will take that natural guide away and will take you even deeper into nowhere land. A place that couldn’t be any further from your true self.
“The easiest way to be reborn is to live and feel life everyday”
Social Expectation Depression
A very interesting expression of a phenomena and I truly believe that 90% of people who have been diagnosed with depression suffer from. It means that we are depressed because we feel that we don’t fit into society. Furthermore it means that we suffer because we can’t reach social expectations that have been put upon us.
These kind of depressions are a natural outcome of influence of mainstream media into our lives. These media especially TV creates an illusion of how the “good life” should look like. In addition to that happiness is the ultimate goal. Once we realized that we will never look like the people on TV or magazines, we will never be able to be happy all the time and we truly believe that possessions are what we really need to be happy – we will suffer tremendously.
The feeling of abandonment, unworthiness, self-doubts will find its way into our lives and feeds on all the illusionary ideas that are shown on TV. The increasing use of smart phones and social media doesn’t help with that. Of course we can be in touch with someone in seconds, but we can’t touch them. Means we lose our ability to be with people, to be touched by people and furthermore to really connect with people. We fear the opinion of others, our own vulnerability and boundaries.
We forget how to make time for ourselves as there is always someone reaching out to us or telling us what’s going on at the moment. Looking at Facebook and other social media we start comparing our lives with the lives of others. There is no more space that we allow ourselves to stay in – thinking and feeling that we miss out on something.
The best advice and the most important step for this kind of depression is, to cut back on watching TV and overwhelming yourself with social media and other distractions. Learn to meditate and come into the space within yourself. You will need to learn to work with your soul and have an honest look upon yourself. You have to learn to be with yourself and enjoy your own company only so you will get to know yourself better. The buddhist Metta Meditation ( try here) can be very helpful in terms of increasing self-love.
Work Pressure Depression
In the workplace that indicates a job we don’t like and just do because of the money. Maybe out of fear or doubts that we never ever will be able to do a job we love doing and make money with it.
In addition to that these kind of depressions are also created by our working ethics against our inner clock. Our over productive society has created a climax that is more than unnatural for our well-being. We spend too much time indoors, eat just on the go and spend more than 70% our wake-life at our workplace to cover our survival costs. We work as much in summer as we do in winter and in a full-time employment we get about 5 or 6 weeks holidays a year.
Hour after hour we stare into computers, take one job load after the next, try to deal with sickness of colleagues and more time pressure at work. It’s up to us to cope with the consequences of staff reduction at work, the increasing of deadlines and the constantly growing amount of pressure.
Not that this would be enough, we also hear about the changes in the big wide world, how they might affect our job security or our future lives.
No wonder you are fed up, tired, overwhelmed and stressed out. How should any normal human being deal with all these things? Especially things that lay outside of our control, things that we have no influence on.
So how can you deal with all this? Antidepressant may help you to stay were you are but they won’t make you happy. They will assist you in staying in a discomfort situation rather than changing it. You will need to face reality and realize that you might working in the wrong job, that you are overworked or you feel not appreciated.
If this is the case, first of all speak with someone about it. Someone you would definitely support your decision whatever that may be, someone who encourages you to do what feels right for you. You might want to seek a chat with your manager as well and let him/her know how you feeling at the moment. That might lead to less work pressure at least for a short period of time. At the end you will need to face the situation and might think about going self-employed or change jobs.
Yes that can be scary and very challenging at the beginning but you will need to develop inner strength to work through it. Speak to your local job centre you might get some support, reach out for some empowerment healing from an alternative healer or might seek some advice from a counselor.
Keep in mind that change is a necessary part of life and we mostly suffer because we deny the fact that we need to change too. You might want to develop a spiritual practice, go to yoga and meditation classes to learn to let go of your fears and doubts. Furthermore to feel the flow of life rushing through you and gain back your flexibility. Trust me, little steps of change make a huge difference and suddenly everything falls into place.
But you will need to overcome your need to control things and learn to let go of the illusion that life is only safe if we stay in the job we have.
The loss Depression is one of the profoundest we can experience because they are somehow unchangeable. We might be able to change our jobs, leave our partners and remove ourselves from unpleasant situations. But we won’t be able to bring back a loved one who passed. The pain we experience through the grieving process is absolutely massive and can really bring us to the ground. Even years after the passing we can still find ourselves crumbling, crying and feeling so deeply hurt when we touch that empty space within our hearts. There is no remedy for a heart that suffers from a loss of a loved one.
Thoughts of not being able to go on, to cope with all that lies in front of us and the emptiness we drown deep into the valley of depression and hopelessness. Some of us may even experience suicidal tendencies themselves especially during the first few months. Everything is so raw, so open, so vulnerable.
Once again our heart has been cracked open and it hurts.
Some people might argue that anti-depressant would be a solution at least for the first few months but to be honest. No, I don’t think so. Antidepressant maybe make you feel that there would be no pain and that is an illusion. The pain will be there no matter what you do, suppressing it is not a solution. Especially help with pharmaceutical drugs is no solution at all. Furthermore it is very important to feel the pain and do whatever is important for you in this moment. Withdraw from the world if you want to, hide, cry, shout, be angry but let it out. Surround yourself with supportive friends and other loved ones but give yourself time. You don’t need to open up if you don’t want to. There are grieving telephone lines available such as the Samaritans (look here) which offer an open ear and support anonymously. You might also want to join a grieving group or take upon a task that helps you to express your loss. For this reason Art Therapy or writing a diary can be very helpful, but also dancing can be an embodiment for your pain.
Make sure that you nourish yourself during these periods of grieving, get a massage, have a hot bath, go for walks and do whatever you feel like doing.
Traumatic Experience Depressions
These kind of depressions mostly come from a past event we have experienced. A trauma we had to go trough and we are unable to release. This kind of depression mostly is chronic and will occur over a very long period of time, it can also be experienced in intervals. A traumatic experience depression definitely will need therapeutic assistance to be worked with. Antidepressant in this case will only suppress the symptoms but will never help to release its source, furthermore it will give the patient the feeling that he has to deal with this the whole of his/her life. There are other empowering alternative healing strategies available such as holistic therapies which can help to reduce the physical expression and do its best to release the symptoms on a material/physical level. A shamanic soul retrieval or shamanic healing can help to release the trauma from the persons energetic body and also assist the soul to heal itself.
But don’t get stuck in the thought that life has been tough on you and its never ever going to change. You will need to work yourself through the trauma and its expressions, the pain, the anger, the helplessness. A trauma might have changed you, but working with it can also transform you and turn a traumatic experience into a healing work. Sometimes we are confronted with certain situations not only that we gain strength from it once we overcame them but also to offer other people help and guidance with similar experiences.
There is always something to gain from any situation no matter how painful it was or is. Don’t give up on yourself and open up to outside help and support.
This form of depression will feel everyone at one point in their lives and might be a summary of all of the above. It expresses itself in the hopelessness and helplessness of being a human placed on this earth. Confronted with our own mortality, through the loss of a loved one or other experiences to do with death, the question why we need to work for our survival, why we are the way we are and furthermore we question our purpose or meaning of life.
Normally these are quite normal expression and can be counted to a necessary feelings to deepen our connection with life. We can’t only live in happiness and pretend that we don’t have meaningful questions pressuring our hearts. We can’t deny the fact that life sometimes gives us a hard time and we do question ourselves or fear our own mortality. These days, sometimes maybe weeks of existential depression helps us to transform ourselves and reach a new level spiritually. Of course these times can be very intense in its feelings but normally we should be able to work through and know that we will come out at the other side of the tunnel with a different point of view on things.
Normally we try to suppress these times of discomfort with eating, drinking or other activities that distract us. But we can also use these times as powerful chances to grow into our own and reach a new level of understanding and inner strength.
If you want to learn to understand yourself and the course of time better I can recommend watching favourite Astrologer Kaypacha (see more). Every week he explains the influences of astrology upon us and our moods, feelings and expressions. He offers great advice and better understanding for temporary influences and helps to connect the soul on a bigger picture.
I hope I could help a bit in understanding and working with depression and shine a light on alternative routes to deal with that important subject. Let us not come from Depression into Suppression but into Expression and Embodiment.
My pain strengthens my awareness.
My doubts remind me on my shared humanity.
My fears show me how to become stronger and my desperation teaches me about my vulnerability.
Now I know that I need to walk through the valley of hopelessness to allow my soul to guide me.
As this is the instant connection to the flow of life and the energy of the universe.
– Julie Jurgan
Julie Jurgan the Founder of Blossom of the Soul, is an inspirational writer, medium and healer. She offers her spiritual guidance to everyone in need. If you would like to book a session with Julie..please have a look here.
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