Do not be afraid to cry as crying is not a sign of weakness. It is a sign that you are strong enough to face what is eating you up inside and to release that. It is a sign that you are not running away from the things that should be confronted but to allow yourself to experience all that is there without any restrictions. Cry and let your tears heal you.
” .. Tears have to be given a new meaning, a new poetry and a totally new dimension – which they have lost because humanity has suppressed its connection to their very own feelings. Secondly, because we have been dominated by male principles which expresses itself in ego and pride that he will not cry or show his feelings openly. This kind of thinking created the impression that it is feminine to cry, it is womanish to have tears. But that is not true. Moreover it is an unnatural and untrue, because man’s eyes have as many tear glands as women’s eyes have. Nature has not made any difference in tear glands. Only we created this understanding in our very own minds and now it is the time to over think what we were told by society and cultural programming.
All these years of denial we have lost something very important. We have created a big wall behind we hide to appear strong and not being true to ourselves. A cocoon of self-denial and isolation. We take more on board that we can carry, we want to do things on our own rather than asking for help and this leads to feelings of burn-out and depression.
There is a reason, why more men go mad than women. As the male principle is all about controlling and holding on to fixed ideas and illusions. While the female principle is about moving with the natural cycles, about opening up and giving, cooperation and being. When a women feels overwhelmed she will have a moment when the repression becomes too much and there is a breakdown. A woman expresses her feeling more easily and knows about the releasing power of crying, therefore when she feels like crying, she cries. She is more natural than man. That has given her a few more experiences that man has missed. Being more in tune with her own intuition and feelings makes the woman healthier; and live longer, five years more than man. Female energy is more calm and quiet than male energy. And both of these energetic qualities are important and should be in right balance to live a healthy and happy life.
Tears are self cleanse for body, mind and spirit
We have been told that tears are a symptom of weakness – but they are not. Tears can cleanse not only your eyes, but your heart too. They soften you, it is a biological strategy to keep you clean, to keep you unburdened. It is now a well-known fact that less women go mad than men because they express their feelings more easily. And the reason has been found to be that women can cry and weep more easily than men. But the programming of our minds and hearts did went on over centuries and shaped our picture of reality.
Sentences like “Be a man, don’t cry like a woman!” are even told to small children. This false programming and the separation from our very own feelings does start already in early childhood and most of us do carry this belief system around till the end of our lives and miss the opportunity to connect to the innermost truth.
A new understanding
The time has come to embrace our very own being and express our feelings honestly and openly. It is time to appreciate all aspects of our emotions and not to hold back with our vulnerability and openness. Being human means being one with the cosmos and it’s always changing cycles of growing and becoming. The change between holding on and releasing. Gaining and letting go.
If you look at the physiology of your body, you have the same glands full of tears whether you are man or woman. It has been found that less women commit suicide than men. And of course, no woman in history has been the cause of founding violent religions, wars, massacres. If the whole world can learn to cry and weep again it will be a tremendous transformation. As it is time to heal the wounds of the past and return to our true nature as human being. Compassion, empathy, forgiveness are qualities that everyone can cultivate within their very own being. The best way to do so is to release what is suppressed and let the tears wash away what no longer serves us.
There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love.
– Washington Irving
written by Joseph Olusegun Daramola
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